This word seems to appear with another companion word – forgive and forget; forgive me; I forgive you, and so on. We are often held in a pool of “shall I forgive so-and-so?”, or “do you think so-and-so will forgive me for this?” However, how often do we think about forgiving ourselves? It was only through ThetaHealing that I had the epiphany of how unforgiving we can be to ourselves. The next critical party we need to learn to forgive would be our parents – or the next peoples closest to us.
Here is an extract of the newsletter I would like to share:
One of the biggest blocks in manifesting is holding onto resentment and hatred, which really doesn’t benefit anyone. Past resentments, grudges, and hatred towards another take away your creative energy to manifest with. The only way to truly move forward is to find the forgiveness inside of you. Forgiveness is one of the most powerful words when spoken.
In ThetaHealing®, we know that forgiveness is the highest protection and has such a high vibration that it will send negative thoughts to other places. Thoughts are real things, and they move faster than the speed of light creating our reality, either positively or negatively.
We can hold many resentments and grudges very unknowingly. It was through ThetaHealing that I got to discover these hidden blockages, and thereby release them. With each release, I realise I carry a little less baggage. With each blockage cleared, I realise I take a little step higher at viewing viscissitudes of life.
Being unforgiving also has a lot to do with judgement (which is also a defense mechanism). Based on past experiences, we have a pre-judgement of how person will react, and all the negative, unreal situations start playing out in our heads. We tend to forget. We forget that everyone changes, everyone wants to be a better person. For all we know, since that certain incident(s), the other person may be holding on to guilt, and holding on to how things could have been better if they had not committed that stupidity. We really never know. That is also why judgements do not hold water. It works as a shield, a protection; yet, with a shield or protection, it also means a wall or a barrier that blocks us from allowing something bigger and better into our lives.
Here are some words of wisdom from my card collections:
To forgive someone does not mean that you are endorsing his or her behaviour. The angels will tell you, rather, that doing so is a form of deep emotional detoxification. It means ‘I am no longer willing to carry toxic energy within my mind and body’.Healing Family Issues – The Romance Angels Oracle Cards by Doreen Virtue
Nothing can be gained by holding on to past disappointments. Being willing to forgive yourself and others opens the door to the opportunity of future growth. Love will be restored and trust can be rebuilt. Move from a place of bitterness back to the joy that you deserve in your life.29 Forgiveness – Whispers of Love by Angela Hatfield and Josephine Wall
Maybe the best place to start is with our parents, it would probably be easier than forgiving ourselves. They are the people who shape us to be who we are today; or if they aren’t, that may be a call for forgiveness to their absence. We chose our parents to take us into this world because they set the platform for our earthly being. We pick them because they set out the framework to propel us into this world of lessons we need to glean – which is the whole point of our existence. However much we detest them for what they have given or have not, these are mirrors for our souls’ growth and development. To me, this is a “shortcut” to healing – the more we can heal from our parents, the less emotional wounds we have to heal from other people in our lives. More simply put, we have less emotional wounds that attract other unhealthy patterns to enter our lives, and therefore, less sh*t to deal with. And as we release and heal the past, we experience more love in our present moments!
Vianna (founder of ThetaHealing®) has a forgiveness meditation here which you may want to try.
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