Life is full of ups and downs and sometimes has a few sideways thrown in too. When things go wrong or do not go as planned, or when something happens to throw us off balance and doubt ourselves, it can be tough to deal with. After all, we all want things to go well and to end up as “winners”. But life will always throw challenges at us, and we cannot control everything. Nor should we try. It is not what happens to you, but what you do with what happens to you, that makes the difference.
“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.
When something happens, the only thing in your power is your attitude toward it; you can either accept it or resent it.”~ Epictetus
Here are two easy ways that you can always come out on top.
Focus on Your Strengths
We are a bunch of contradictions – sorry to break it to you. Sometimes happy, sometimes sad; sometimes hopeful, sometimes pessimistic; sometimes childish and sometimes mature. We also have a whole load of strengths and weaknesses that affect what we do and how we do it, but we tend to put more focus on our weaknesses and not our strengths.
A strength is something that you do consistently well. It is something you are just able to do, you are hard-wired to do it well, and you get an inherent satisfaction from doing it. It could be tackling and solving complex problems, empathising with people, having a lively imagination, or being able to make the perfect omelette.
Focusing on what you do well rather than what you are not so good at makes all kinds of sense. When you look at what you are not good at, you feel bad about yourself and your ability.
Set Things Up Ahead Of Time
Sure, there will be times when you can just head into something, do brilliantly at it, and get the result you were hoping for (normally if you are playing to your strengths). But other times, you might blunder forwards, wing it, and not get the result you wanted.
So what exactly do you want to happen? What solution, outcome, or result would be great? Get really clear on the outcome you want from what is facing you, and how it would feel to get the outcome you are looking for.
Then start breaking it down – what can you do to set things up so that your desired outcome happens? What needs to be put in place? What will help to make what you want to happen, happen?
And to ensure the best outcome, what are you willing to do?
“One secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his opportunity when it comes.”~ Benjamin Disraeli