Most people in our culture today are so busy running around trying to arrange their lives to be somewhere else. We all want to be somewhere else geographically or financially or in our relationships. We want to be anywhere but here, as we have been led to believe that if only we can be somewhere else, then our lives would work. This escapism acts like a drug that only gives temporary relief to a chronic problem.
Apart from wanting to be somewhere else, most people today also live by a philosophy of “some day” that allows them to manipulate time. “I can do it, but just not today. I’ll do it when…” and they use these excuses to stay in their comfort zones. This can be very disempowering and is responsible for a lot of disappointment and frustration for a lot of people.
The truth, however, is that right now is all you’ve really got. Tomorrow is never promised to you and learning to fully live in and for the moment is a vital distinction to make in creating a great life. Being grateful does not mean that you lose your drive or purpose, but allows you to slow down and really enjoy the ride. Not only is it healthy to want more from life, but it is also required – to be truly fulfilled and knowing where you are is critical in getting where you want to be. Using someday as an excuse to soften your problems will not create long-term success and fulfilment. Be honest with yourself and stop making excuses only to make yourself feel better. A little pain can be very useful as it will at least move you to action. There is always something you can do right now to turn your ideas into reality. There is always one small step you can take.
One of the most powerful resources you have is resourcefulness. This means that right now, you have all that you need to achieve whatever you desire, and that you have the ability to take action with exactly what you’ve got and exactly where you are. You do not have to wait for “someday when” or “when I am…” before you take action on your dreams and goals. The smallest idea acted upon can make all the difference as it immediately makes your idea real. It also smothers “someday”, because you used your will to consciously take charge.
It is important to realise that the purpose of pursuing a goal or a dream is not just in achieving it, but even more so in the experience of achieving it. You do not travel for the purpose of reaching a destination but for the purpose of travelling. Whatever dream or goal you are pursuing, you will probably spend more time in pursuit of it than actually achieving it; and most goals are an anti-climax when you actually achieve them anyway. The process is where the true fulfilment comes from, and the actual experience is what makes you become something instead of accumulating something. If you cannot be happy and grateful without your goal, then chances are that you will not be happy and grateful with it.
Live in the present, but know where you are going. Be right here and celebrate and capture the magical moments of your life. Hold on to them as the treasures you get to take with you into your magnificent future. Life is not just lived in the moment but also created in the moment. Now is the best time to design the next ten years of your life. Let your thoughts and knowledge serve you through action. Action is what eventually determines your destiny. Move confidently in the direction of your choosing, and do not get seduced by the popular belief that someday things will come your way, or that someday your luck will change.
You are the source and the creator of your own prosperity and it all starts with a sense of immense gratitude for everything you already have exactly where you are right now.
Living in a place called somewhere really will not serve you long-term, although it might feel good as a short-term escape or excuse. Having to constantly lie to yourself that you will act on your true desires someday when x, y or z is just right, will only create an unnecessary burden. When you turn your “someday” philosophy into a “same day” philosophy, you can start to adopt the mindset where you take action on your ideas immediately, with exactly what you’ve got and exactly where you are.
What someday and somewhere really comes down to is that you falsely admit to yourself that what you need is not available to you. This creates a belief that you are not in control of your life but that you are waiting for something else somewhere else before you can take charge. Ironically, you will only get full access to your true resources when you take action exactly where you are with exactly what you’ve got, despite your excuses. True happiness and gratitude never relies on external conditions but is purely determined by your evaluation of where you are now.