Do you know that emotions and trauma can be passed down from our ancestors to us via DNA? Those we hate/resent/begrudge/fear/envy may well share the same bloodline that flows through us, or be the enemies they had to defend/fight against.
“The healthy man does not torture others – generally it is the tortured who turn into torturers.” – Carl G. Jung
Only when a person has a healthy relationship with oneself, that they can extend this authentic love to others around.
Have you ever thought about how major life events shape us, or even becomes our identity (in part or in whole)? Or how the attachments to past events (whether positive or negative) can hold us back from the larger potential of what we can be achieving in our lives in actuality?